Let me tell you my story…
Hi, I’m Claudia,
I help women who’ve given everything to love – and feel like they got lost in the process – rebuild their self-worth and finally feel whole again.
- I know what it’s like to pour your heart into a relationship, only to feel unseen, unheard, and unchosen.
- To second-guess yourself constantly, wondering if you’re the reason things never seem to work.
- To feel like you’ve dimmed your light just to be loved — and now you don’t even recognize yourself anymore.
If that’s you… I see you. I was you.
I know what it feels like to be shattered by love.
To have the rug pulled out from under you – twice – and wonder if it’s all your fault.
The first time I became a wife, I was just 19.
A starry-eyed girl marrying her childhood sweetheart, believing in forever.
We were young and optimistic, but the military lifestyle added pressure we weren’t prepared for. I was commuting long hours for university, constantly chasing something but never feeling grounded. Before I knew it, we were drifting apart, living parallel lives under the same roof.
We were married for seven years. Seven years of trying, of growing, of changing. And by the time it ended, I wasn’t the same girl who had walked down the aisle in her teenage dream. I was older, wearier, and already starting to question my worth.
But nothing could’ve prepared me for the second divorce.
I was 36 and facing the kind of heartbreak that cracks you open from the inside out. It was messy – tainted with lies, infidelity, and addiction. It took years to untangle myself from it. And even longer to heal. I remember waking up some mornings feeling like I was underwater – crushed by the weight of shame, fear, loneliness, and the relentless inner question: “What’s wrong with me?”
I felt like I had failed. Twice. And it wasn’t just about the marriages – it was the dreams that came with them. Would I ever find real, lasting love? Would I ever be a Mum? That biological clock was ticking louder than ever, and society wasn’t subtle about reminding me of everything I “should” have by now.
But here's the thing… sometimes, rock bottom is the very foundation you need to rebuild.
This was my turning point...
And as much as it hurt, it also cracked me wide open for transformation. I realised that if I ever wanted to truly experience the kind of love I craved- deep, soulful, authentic love – it had to start with me.
So, I made a decision. I wasn’t going to wait for someone else to come and save me. I was going to become the woman I needed. And I was going to do it on my own damn terms.
I threw myself into dance – something that lit up my soul and helped me reconnect with my body. I changed my inner dialogue. My health. My appearance. I stopped apologising for taking up space. I began honouring my intuition. I healed. I grew. I got my sassy back.
And it wasn’t just surface-level glow-ups – it was deep, inner work. I worked with coaches, I read the books, I journaled my heart out. I dove into my patterns, my beliefs, my wounds. I looked in the mirror one day and saw someone I hadn’t seen in years – me.
Not the broken version.
Not the one seeking external validation.
But a woman grounded in her worth.
A woman who finally understood the kind of love she deserved.
That’s when everything changed.
Because the moment I stopped seeking love to complete me and started loving myself fully, love showed up. Real love.
Enter: Nigel.
I met Nigel on a dating site, a concept that once felt foreign and cringeworthy.
From the first date, I knew.
There was magic.
Not because he was perfect, but because I was finally showing up as the most authentic, open version of me. No masks. No desperation. Just me – confident, whole, and ready.
And then came his daughter, Jessica.
She had lost her mother as a baby.
The day I met her, I knew she’d change my life forever.
Suddenly, love wasn’t just romance – it was family, depth, and purpose.
And here’s the truth no one tells you:
Even the dream love story comes with doubts.
With blending families. With learning to co-parent. With wondering if you’re enough.
But I kept showing up. For her. For him. For me. And we grew into each other, the three of us.
Three hearts healing. Three souls finding their way back to joy.
Today, I wake up beside the kind of love I used to only dream about.
But that’s not the end of my story…… because at 40, after more rounds of IVF than I care to count, our little miracle Liberty arrived. I’m now raising two beautiful, sassy girls. I would never have believed this kind of joy was waiting for me just around the corner.
So please – stay curious. Stay open. The best things often show up when you least expect them.
When I look back now, I realise all that came before was just the dress rehearsal. The pain, the heartbreak, the messy middle – it was all preparing me for this. And maybe it’s true… perhaps everything does happen for a reason.
Whether love is part of your next chapter or not, remember this:
It all begins with you.
You get to design a life that lights you up. A life that feels like home. And how thrilling is that?
I’ll be right here, cheering you on, holding your hand when it feels scary, reminding you that you are more powerful than you ever imagined.
Today, I coach women just like you to write their own comeback story.
I created the Sassy Self-Worth Rebrand to give you the framework, support, and soul-deep transformation I wish I’d had back when I thought love just wasn’t meant for me.
Because it is meant for you.
The kind of love that doesn’t require self-abandonment or walking on eggshells.
But it starts with your relationship to the most important person in your life: YOU.
💃 More About Claudia...
- I am an ICF Accredited Coach & NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Master Practitioner.
- I always have a self-help book and a bright lipstick in my bag — because growth and glam go hand-in-hand.
- I’m the author of “Gut Health Pure & Simple”, “Get Over A Break-Up: Self-Hypnosis for Accepting & Moving On”, and “Heal from Divorce: Positive Affirmations for Accepting & Moving Forward” - all available on Amazon and Audible.
- Forthcoming book titles include: “The Anxious Attachment Recovery Solution” and “Somatic Therapy Workbook for Self-Healers.”
- When I’m not coaching, you’ll find me on the dance floor enjoying the salsa vibes!
- I’m UK-based, but work with women all over the world.
- I write love letters to women who’ve forgotten how to love themselves (and I won’t stop ‘til every one of us remembers her magic).
- My playlists are half heartbreak anthems, half “watch me rise” energy — both belong in the healing.
- I believe healing your self-worth is the most powerful love story you’ll ever live. And it starts with you.
